1. Prepare to go out
The journey starts before you even pull out of the driveway. A relaxed baby is more likely to stay relaxed.
- Change their diaper so they’re comfortable and dry, and try a calming routine.
- Make sure they are dressed appropriately for the weather.
- Sing a soothing song or read a short story to help them transition into a calm state before you put them in the car seat.
- You can also try to offer a feed; a full tummy often leads to a sleepy baby.
2. Make sure the baby is comfortable
Finding the right car seat can drastically improve the quality of your time in the car.
Kids get hot and sweaty so fast! Check the AC in the car is at the right temperature. Remember that if they are rear-facing, you’ll probably need to turn the air up a little higher than you normally would so that it gets circulated to them in the back.
My kids complain if their clothes aren’t lying nicely and untucked from within the straps, so pulling out any bunched clothes and getting the straps the right tightness is key. Straps should be tight enough for safety, but not so tight that they are uncomfortable.
3. Back seat mirror for rear-facing baby
If your child is rear-facing, install a mirror in front of their car seat so you can sneak in a few smiles and giggles while safely stopped so they can see you are still there. Make sure that it’s installed correctly, because in an accident, anything that isn’t secure can become a projectile that may cause severe injury to your child.
4. Choose the right soundtrack
Good music = happy kids. Experiment with different genres to find what your child enjoys. You can also adapt your playlist to the situation: calming music if they’re tired, and upbeat tunes to keep them engaged when they’re wide awake. For a head start, try creating playlists with different vibes—we recommend calming, upbeat, and interactive-educational options.
5. Try being Strategic with Timing
Using your baby’s nap schedule to your advantage can make for a much smoother ride. For longer trips, try to leave just before a scheduled nap. The motion of the car often lulls them right to sleep. For short errands, aim for a time when your baby is typically calm and well-rested.
6. Toys
Having a favorite stuffed toy can give them a sense of security and company, especially on longer drives. Smaller board books or ones that incorporate finger puppets, lift-the-flap, or musical elements are also great. I always keep a few in the car so I can easily reach for them when needed. Some of my kids’ faves are Where is Baby’s Belly Button? and Five Little Monkeys. For 6- to 18-month-olds, you can even make a car-safe sensory bag with different textures and objects.
7. Safe snacks
While not all moms are comfortable with this tip, the act of eating, along with the new tastes, can keep them occupied. Save snacks like puffs and rice cakes that easily dissolve are a must in the car with my kids. No eating in the car was definitely one of the thousands of things I vowed my kids would NEVER do before I became a mom, but that went out the window once I experienced what it’s like to drive with them. They do make for some crumbs, but I’d take crumbs over a screaming child any day!.
8. Back seat companion
If you’re traveling with another passenger, consider having them sit in the back so they can sing to, talk to, or safely feed a bottle or a sip of water to your baby. Babies get lonely back there without any company, so use your available resources when driving with friends.
9. Getting grandparents on Bluetooth
Call grandma (or a friend or family member) on Bluetooth and have them talk to your child. Whenever I have run out of ideas and things to talk about with my kids, I get grandma on the phone for some entertainment. She loves it, and the kids do too.
10. iPad or iPhone
Dare I say it? iPad! Gasp! Just for short distances and as a last resort. I’m not a huge proponent of screen time, but I also don’t have an aversion to limited screen time. So when all else fails, you might see an iPad in the laps of my littles.
11. Movie time
If you’re fancy and have TV screens in your car, a movie or cartoon can always help during a drive. Just like finding your kid’s favorite music, try different types of movies or cartoons until you find the one your kid responds to best.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: How do I choose a safe and comfortable car seat?
A: Here’s what to look for:
- Safety certification: In the U.S., check for the NHTSA label showing it meets national standards.
- Proper fit in your car: A correctly installed seat shouldn’t move more than 1 inch side-to-side or front-to-back.
- Right type for your child:
- Rear-facing (infant) – for newborns; portable and often stroller-compatible.
- Convertible – rear-facing longer, then forward-facing; grows with your child.
- All-in-one – rear-facing, forward-facing, and booster; longest lifespan.
- Ease of use: Choose one you can install securely every time. Look for clear instructions, simple buckles, and NHTSA “ease of use” ratings.
- Avoid used seats: They may have hidden damage or missing parts.
- Check expiration: Seats typically last 6–10 years; always confirm the date on the label.
What should I do if my baby starts crying uncontrollably in the car?
- A: First, check the basics: is their diaper wet, are they hungry, or are they too hot or cold? If everything seems fine, try to remain calm. Pull over when it’s safe to do so, and see if you can comfort them. Sometimes, a change of scenery or a quick cuddle can make all the difference.
Q: How can I help my baby with motion sickness?
- A: While motion sickness is more common in older children, some babies can be affected. Keeping the car well-ventilated can help. Try to avoid strong smells in the car. If the problem persists, consult your pediatrician for advice.
Q: What should I pack in a diaper bag for a car trip?
- A: For any car trip with a baby, your diaper bag should be well-stocked. Essential items include diapers (more than you think you’ll need!), a pack of wipes, a changing pad, a change of clothes for the baby, a few plastic bags for soiled diapers or clothes, hand sanitizer, and any feeding supplies you might need, like bottles, formula, or baby food.
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