Learning you’re pregnant is an amazing moment of life, and what comes after is quite the ride (to say the VERY least). Whether you shout it from the mountaitops the moment you find out, or wait until a future date to make your big announcement pregnant, you’ll find that once you do, suddenly, everyone around you has advice, opinions, and expectations to share. Navigating this world of social expectations can be overwhelming, and it’s completely normal to feel a mix of excitement, pressure, and even stress.
Here’s a gentle guide to help you process these expectations, set boundaries, and focus on what truly matters during your pregnancy journey.
The Weight of Well-Meaning Advice
The minute you share your pregnancy, people seem to have an endless supply of “must-dos” and “don’t-evers.” Family, friends, and even strangers may want to share their two cents on how to sleep, eat, and even think while pregnant. While well-meaning, this advice can sometimes feel more like pressure than support.
Tip: Remember, it’s okay to listen politely and then do what feels right for you. You’re the one experiencing this pregnancy, and your instincts will guide you well. If certain advice feels off, it probably isn’t the right fit for you.
Setting Boundaries on Social Media
Social media can amplify the pressure to have a “perfect” pregnancy. From gender reveal parties to monthly bump updates, it’s easy to feel that you need to share every step of the way. But remember, sharing on social media is entirely your choice, and it’s okay if it doesn’t look like anyone else’s.
Tip: If you want to keep things private, communicate that with loved ones. You can even ask friends and family to refrain from posting about your pregnancy online until you’re comfortable. This is your journey to share—or not share—as you see fit.
Handling Unsolicited Opinions
From advice on what to name your baby to unsolicited comments on how you should give birth, some conversations during pregnancy can feel especially challenging. When these topics come up, it can help to have a few responses ready. A simple “Thanks for your thoughts, but we’re making our own decisions” or “I appreciate the advice, but we’re going to go with what feels right for us” can deflect without starting an argument.
Tip: You don’t owe anyone an explanation. If an opinion is pushing your boundaries, it’s okay to end the conversation and redirect it to a topic you’re more comfortable discussing.
Embracing Your Own Experience
Everyone’s journey through pregnancy is different, and sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of your own feelings amid all the noise. You may feel pressured to feel a certain way, whether that’s gratitude, happiness, or calm. If you’re not experiencing those emotions all the time, that’s completely normal.
Tip: Give yourself permission to experience pregnancy as it is for you, without comparing it to anyone else’s. This is your body, your baby, and your path.
Saying “No” to Societal Expectations
Not every aspect of pregnancy may feel comfortable or joyful, and social expectations can sometimes make it seem like there’s a “right” way to experience it. Maybe you don’t want a big baby shower, or perhaps you’re not into creating a registry—whatever your preference, it’s valid.
Tip: Lean into the choices that feel authentic to you and let go of the rest. Saying “no” to expectations that don’t feel right is a form of self-care that’s important not only during pregnancy but in parenthood as well.
Focusing on Your Well-Being
At the heart of navigating social expectations during pregnancy is staying connected to yourself. Taking time to relax, bond with your unborn baby, and mentally prepare for this journey is more important than meeting anyone else’s expectations.
Tip: Schedule “quiet time” just for you. Whether it’s reading, journaling, meditating, or just having a cup of tea without any interruptions, nurturing your well-being is a powerful way to keep social pressures in check.
You’re the Expert on Your Own Journey
No one else can understand your experience the way you do. Dealing with pregnancy announcements and social expectations can be challenging, but with boundaries, a sense of humor, and a commitment to your own well-being, you’ll find a way that feels right for you.
And remember, at New Mom School, we’re here to support you, remind you of your strength, and empower you to navigate pregnancy on your own terms. This is your time—enjoy it in the way that feels best to you!
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